Links for Sexy Feminists: Against “Dieting”, Safer Sweatshops, Women Vote in Pakistan, More

Against the “Diet”: A poignantly inspiring tale of a woman who watched her father waste away due to self starvation and vows to embrace her own plus -ize figure. If you’re ever at a loss for body positivity, may we recommend reading and rereading this compilation of advice from fat women who love their curves. Meanwhile, having broken the “We don’t want fat people” Abercrombie story, Business Insider charts a precipitous drop in the brand’s popularity following the story.

Safer Sweatshops: On the other end of the fashion cycle, we were encouraged to hear that several prominent retailers are committing to improve factory conditions in Bangladesh.

Rethinking Choice: One woman’s interesting take on the semantic argument between “Life” and “Choice.”

Surprise!: Greater access to and education about birth control leads to fewer abortions. Interestingly, education in the study led many women to conclude that an IUD was the right choice for them, suggesting that the long-term solution may be underused.

Sex Positivity: Thanks to Jezebel for this primer on the so-called “looseness” of the vulva. NSFW.

Mommy Life: One woman’s story about coming to terms with postpartum depression and accepting that her husband could be the better caregiver at the beginning.

Activism Works: The Florida teen whose science experiment caused a minor explosion has had charges dropped after internet activists accused the accusers of racism. Meanwhile, though Disney has publicly backed down from its Merida makeover, only time will tell if they’re changing her back.

Women in the World: Pakistani women braved threats of violence to vote this past weekend, while Kuwaiti women are gaining grounds for athletic competition. Coming from a different religious perspective, Israel has struck down the mandate that women and men be segregated on public bus rides through conservative neighborhoods. Meanwhile, Canadian students created this funny and thought-provoking spoof of gender roles in advertising.


Links for Sexy Feminists: Elizabeth Smart, White Privilege, Female Sexuality, and more

Elizabeth Smart Speaks Out: The woman you may remember as a kidnapped and assaulted 14-year-old was in our thoughts as three women victims of trafficking were found alive in Ohio this week. Now a self-possessed 25-year-old, she was in the news recently for commenting that abstinence-only sex ed made her feel as worthless as a chewed piece of gum. Mormon commentator Joanna Brooks points out that this tactic is all too common in the religion’s sex ed classes.

White Privilege Alert: A Muslim American woman’s story of open bigotry from security guards at the White House Correspondent’s Dinner will have you quaking with rage.

Men Can Be Feminists: Enjoy this TED talk by activist Jackson Katz on the way ordinary men can prevent–or condone–gender violence.

Girls and Geek Culture: Not all women hate Game of Thrones, and Amelia McDonell-Parry wants folks to cut that sexist BS. Meanwhile, an intelligent analysis reveals that the “boob plate armor” found in videogame graphics doesn’t just objectify women: it would also make the wearer more likely to perish on the field of battle.

Save Merida: The Disney princess who was her own heroine in “Brave” has received a much maligned makeover.

Creep Alert: An NRA convention vendor is the subject of some (but probably not enough) controversy for marketing a female-shaped target as an “Ex.”

Freeing Female Sexuality: And lastly, here’s this charming essay from a sweet old lady about lust for life.


Links for Sexy Feminists: Real Beauty, Anorexia, Girl Geeks, and more

Real Beauty:  We posted last week about Dove’s latest ad campaign, but The Frisky has a great article about issues the ad raises.  Writing for the Houston Press, Abby Koenig says that even if you find the ads problematic, they’re a step in the right direction.  Her article also discusses the controversial “You Are Not A Sketch” campaign, which Dodai Stewart of Jezebel says “passes the buck and misses the point.”

The Point Being: Speaking of anorexia, modeling scouts in Sweden apparently recruit from a clinic for those suffering from the disease.  Ick.

Girls and Geeks: The two terms aren’t mutually exclusive at all, of course.  But a great post by a guy about wanting to play videogames with his 9-year-old daughter is both sweet and thought-provoking.

Women Are Hilarious: And one of our favorite funny feminists, Katie Goodman, needs your help to get to Edinburgh Fringe.

Feminism in Action: A new UK arts project attempts to get us all thinking about how our feminism is part of everyday life.

Catcall Patrol: Writer Emmie Mears on why catcalls feel threatening.

Sex and Gender: After a recent post which compared a woman refusing sex with her husband to child neglect, NYMag has an appropriately eye-rolling response.  It’s worth mentioning that one of the experts quoted in the original article was talking about sexual desire irrespective of gender, and that’s clear in the article itself.

 

 

 

 


Embracing a Full Mastectomy

After years of fearing the worst, culminating in a diagnosis of breast cancer, Michelle Cottle says, “Good riddance, girls.” In fact, she calls removing her breasts the culmination of a wish.

Links for Sexy Feminists: 30 Rock Finale, Abortion in Mississippi, Going Gray, and more

Tearful Goodbye to 30 Rock: As the groundbreaking show airs its series finale, the Daily Beast has a great summary of what scholars say about the show. What sets it apart is that Tina Fey is just as well known for her role as the show’s creator as for starring as Liz Lemon, writes NPR blogger Linda Holmes. The Hollywood Reporter offers a sweet look at the working relationship between Liz and Jack which, as it evolved, became the soul of the show.

Pink for Women’s Health: The last abortion clinic in Mississippi painted itself pink in a show of defiance, though state bureaucracy is deliberately encroaching on its right to exist.

Gray is the New Brown: Women who let their natural gray shine silver, at Jezebel. The NYT offers a helpful tip from a stylist: make sure you get a good cut.

GenderF***Yeah: Why gender violence is about more than just “men” and “women.”

Hot and Heavy: Amber Kosarick writes on how straight men should approach fat women, but includes wonderful info on body positivity for all sizes. All women can have body image concerns about cellulite, but that shouldn’t be the case, writes Lindsay Kite, also on Everyday Feminist. I nabbed the catchy opener from Virgie Tovar, whose compilation of essays, Hot and Heavy, is definitely worth checking out.


Links for Sexy Feminists: Roe v. Wade at 40, Clothes Make the Woman, Fetishes, and more

My Body My Choice: Roe v. Wade turns forty this week, and co-creator of The Daily Show Lizz Winstead teams up with Ultraviolet in a catchy video about the creeping erosion of our right to safe, legal abortion. Guttmacher Institute offers five detailed, elegant infographics about the decision’s continued importance, while This Is Personal offers a visual Q&A about what its erosion means to you.

Reacting to Roe: The Washington Post covers a new study which says most Americans support Roe v. Wade. Meanwhile, Supreme Court journalist Jeffrey Toobin offers a favorable polemic as the leadoff Comment in the New Yorker’s Talk of the Town.

I Can’t Even… : Cutting up your vagina to look like Barbie.

Clothes Make the Woman: A sociology professor tells us what’s so awesome about this viral image.

Feminist Fetish: Our friend in feminism, Jessica Wakeman, wrote a great exploration of what “kinks” and “fetishes” are, and why they’re too often used incorrectly.


Links for Sexy Feminists: Rihanna’s Sexual Exploits, Political Slut-Shaming, and more …

We cannot improve upon this Jezebel headline: Rihanna Does Whatever She Wants With Her Vagina and for Some Reason That’s a Problem: We’ll just add that we are always in defense of Rihanna, as we said back when she was taking crap for her song “S&M.”

We’re always for better body image: YourTango gives us some ideas about how to get there.

What giving up shopping for clothes does for your budget and psyche: Blogger Lyz Lenz realizes the power of not binging on cheap, trendy items whenever the urge hits.

Down with the “Mommy Wars” already: Finally, someone says something smart about them: Amy Allen writes in The New York Times that the conflict isn’t woman vs. woman; it’s women vs. inadequate family leave policies and childcare support in this country.

Down with slut-shaming women in political debates, too: Katha Politt urges us all to stand with conservative pundit S.E. Cupp, who argued in favor of defunding Planned Parenthood and thus found herself depicted in Hustler magazine with a penis in her mouth. Women should be allowed to express their beliefs, whatever they are, without being subjected to degrading sexual images.

 


Why Is 'You're Fat' Still the Go-To Insult to Use On Women?

“I’m sorry but it just sounds like you’re fat and jealous of those women because they aren’t.”

This is part of a recent comment posted on a not-so-recent story I once wrote for FemiNoshing called “Why can’t even female TV cooks be fat?” While I agree that the story was written with a pretty heavy dose of snark, I’m not interested in rehashing that argument here. Rather, the comment, which devolved all too quickly into a personal attack, made me wonder why often the best way to knock a woman down, the best way to put her in her place and dismiss her, is to call her fat?

And it’s not just women doing this to each other. When men want to make a woman feel bad, whether it’s because she dared have an opinion, or because she rejected him in some way, they will point out that she’s fat. Sure, the words “ugly,” “bitch” and “slut” get bandied about too, but “fat” brings with it its own particular tinge of disgust and contempt.

Why is calling someone fat considered so effective? Oh, right — because being fat is not healthy! (My commenter talked about health, too, but I digress.) I’m not getting into arguments about health at every size here. Nor will I disagree with the concept that being morbidly obese often leads to health problems (and yes, note I pointed to the most extreme example here, because most fat people are not morbidly obese).

But there are lots of things people do that are not healthy. Smoking is not healthy. Drinking hard alcohol (wine, in moderation, is actually recommended) is not healthy. In fact, drinking and driving is downright dangerous. When was the last time being fat and driving caused a pile-up on the highway? [Read more...]


Why Is Feminism Sexy? Let Us Count the Ways

Why feminism is sexy:

1.  Because miniskirts were actually invented as a symbol of liberation and rebellion.

2.  Because of Tina Fey.

3.  Because a bikini wax can make you ponder major feminist principles.

4.  Because of Gloria Steinem.

5.  Because you can eat steak instead of salad. (Unless, of course, you just want salad.)

6.  Because you can love your body.

7.  Because of Michelle Obama and Christina Aguilera. (Together, at last!)

8.  Because we can appreciate good men.

9.  Because we can throw away those maddening dating books.

10.  Because there’s no such thing as too smart — or too feminist — to come.

Tell us why you think feminism is sexy.


Body Type: Curvy

I’ve been in and on and off again relationship with Match.com for years.  We met in 2005, and got off to a fabulous start when I met and dated two guys I really liked right in a row.  To give you an idea of what successful Match.com endeavors look like: one of them sent me roses when I was in Texas on business and the other once talked to me on the phone for 5 hours.  You get the idea – where previously I’d been uncertain about online dating, I now felt reassured – this was a good way to meet mostly normal people, and all from the comfort of my living room couch.  For the person who had grown tired of bars and clubs earlier than most – this was exactly what I needed to keep my love life going. Those guys both lasted a couple of months, then fizzled out.  Sucked at the time, but it happens – dating is really just a department store changing room – ultimately, you’re trying people on to see how they fit.

So the way it all begins is with the Match.com profile.  There are several elements to a complete profile – basic stats, like eye color, height and other things that can be easily communicated via drop down menu choices. Next comes the essay part – where you make your pitch for love and showcase how incredibly witty, interesting and articulate you are. The last part, of course, is the photographs, where you prove that you are reasonably attractive, maybe have some friends, and have left the house, the state or the country once or twice in the last decade. As a writer, I’ve never had much trouble with the essay part, though not sounding clichéd can be challenging – everyone writes stuff like they  want someone who  works hard but can leave work at the office or that they enjoy gourment restaurants some nights, while others, they like to dine in.

I write the same crap – like “I like watching this cool TV show that everybody watches”, and I’ve got plenty of pictures of me all over Europe or clutching a snowboard in Vermont to show I’m cool and worldly and semi-adventurous. There’s only one part of the Match.com profile that has ever given me pause, and it’s supposed to be one of the easy questions.  Body type.

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