Women in the World Wrap-Up: Remembering Nora Ephron, saving women’s lives, succeeding at business, and more …

Hillary Clinton addresses the Women in the World summit. Courtesy of Daily Beast.

We were lucky enough to be among the hundreds of women gathered in New York Friday for the Daily Beast’s Women in the World summit, where we were inspired by Hillary Clinton, Oprah, and many other amazing famous and non-famous women. Here, a few of the tidbits we learned:

* Nora Ephron knew who Deep Throat was. She predicted correctly to Tom Hanks years before Mark Felt’s identity as the Watergate informant was made known to the world.

* For less than the cost of a Diet Coke, we can provide women with kits that help save their lives in high-risk childbirth.

* The CEO of Sam’s Club is a kickass woman named Roz Brewer. Her message to aspiring female execs: ”You know it. You just need the confidence to go for it. Trust your intuition. Let your voice be heard.”

* Human trafficking is one of the three fastest growing criminal activities in the world. For more information on how to help, check out the amazing work of Joy Ngozi Eleilo, the UN’s special rapporteur on trafficking.

* Diane VonFurstenberg’s mother, a holocaust survivor, weighed just 49 pounds 18 months before VonFurstenberg was born. “As long as we know we should never be victims,” VonFurstenberg said of her mother’s legacy in action, “we can win the war.”

 


Sexy Feminist: Mindy Kaling

In a way, Mindy Kaling is the anti-Zooey Deschanel, the anti-Lena Dunham. Whereas Deschanel and Dunham seem to stoke intense ire just by existing (congratulations, Anne Hathaway, you just joined this elite club, too!), Kaling inspires intense love in her fans. Young women, in particular, hang on her every word on Twitter, made her book a bestseller, and now worship at the weekly altar of her terrific Fox sitcom, The Mindy Project.

In a way, this makes Kaling the new Tina Fey. Her fame comes from this sense of deep affection that she cultivates just by being smart and funny and feminist. She writes and stars in her own sitcom. And like Fey, she has created a persona that makes fun of the pressures single career women face while not making fun of those single career women themselves. Kaling’s sitcom alter ego, Mindy Lahiri, is not exactly a feminist icon herself. Like Fey’s Liz Lemon, she’s flawed and unique to the point of bordering on bizarre (in the best way). She’s a kick-ass gynecologist who loves Beyonce and sparkly dresses and boys and romantic comedies. She talks in a baby-ish voice but can banter with the best of them. She refers to herself as “chubby” but has the sexual self-confidence of Sasha Fierce. The fact that she’s a gynecologist also allows for regular lessons in sex ed and women’s health to sneak into primetime.

This all makes her a true Sexy Feminist — and a force that will have us soon admiring some new starlet as “the new Mindy Kaling.”


Sexy Feminism Excerpt: Plastic Surgery — Can You?

Leading up to the publication of our book, Sexy Feminism, on March 12, we’ll be sharing some short excerpts of it with you, the readers who helped make this book possible! Here, a portion of our chapter, “Plastic Surgery: Can You?” 

In May 2011, a young mother sat down for a TV interview to defend giving her eight-year-old daughter regular Botox injections. She said it was the edge her girl needed on the ultra-competitive beauty-pageant circuit. Those mussy lines on her face just wouldn’t do. According to her mom, this eight-year-old’s lips were too weak as well, so she added Restylane injections to the child’s regular beauty routine, which also included spray tanning, teeth whitening, and virgin waxing—waxing the child’s body (legs, arms, armpits, labia) to permanently prevent hair growth. (See chapter 2 for more on that.) In June of the same year, the mother of a seven-year-old embarked on her own media tour to defend a gift she’d recently given her daughter: an IOU for breast implants.

Weird plastic-surgery stories are nothing new. For decades, there have been tales of “cat women,” women so addicted to plastic surgery that they’ve erased the humanity from their features. But at least these are grown women making choices—choices that have feminist consequences, and we’ll get to those in a bit. But little girls don’t know their faces have lines, that body hair is ugly, or that their breasts will be inadequate unless someone  feeds them this message. What have we done to women that their idea of beautiful is so twisted it  causes them to subject their children to needles and scalpels? Alas, dads are doing it too. In a 2011 episode of the talk show Anderson, a male plastic surgeon defended giving his teenage daughter breast implants and a nose job. Sigh.

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Random Lessons In Feminist History: Miss America (Really)

In our new book, Sexy Feminism, we share ways to add feminism to every day activities. Your beauty routine, for example, can totally be a feminist act.

But there are some institutions that are the oil to feminism’s water: The two just don’t mix. And Miss America is about as oily as it gets. It was the site, after all, of one of the best-known feminist protests. In 1968, leaders of the fast-growing second wave feminist movement chose that year’s Miss America Pageant in Atlantic City as the place to stage a dramatic protest (and gain the world’s media focus while doing it). The activists used pageant contestants as examples of how women were being devalued in society—that is, for their looks, not their intellect. Into the “freedom trash can” went instruments of oppression—high heels, makeup, bras (no, they were not burned), women’s magazines, and girdles. The event sparked the discussion on standards of female beauty that continues to this day.

Only 17 years earlier, a woman named Yolande Betbeze was fighting for similar progress from within the pageant. She was crowned Miss America in 1951 but was very vocal about her feelings about the swimsuit competition (summary: eye roll). After she was crowned, she refused to pose in underwear-like garments of any kind. Her protest provoked the swimsuit company, Catalina, to pull its sponsorship of the pageant. The Miss America Organization itself says Betbeze’s actions led to a new focus on scholarships, rather than female beauty.

Yes, Miss America’s feminist flaws remain today and, lord, those swimsuits are hardly even clothing anymore. But this one woman’s staunch defense of her morals and advocation of her value is proof that any of us can make real change in the world to help women for generations.


Female Condoms: Sexy and Empowering or ‘Ew’?

Dr. Donna Espeut takes on the female condom debate in this guest post.

For some of us, male condoms are the go-to, dual-protection method, even though there are other options in our cache of safer sex tools. Female condoms, on the other hand, get little or no love. A recent piece on Jezebel.com suggests that this case of unrequited love is justified. (Tracie Egan Morrissey writes, “female condoms are just ew.”) However, here are four reasons why we should stop giving the female condom the cold shoulder:

 

1. It adds a dash of empowerment to our safer-sex pursuits.

Of all the methods designed to prevent both pregnancy and STIs, only the female condom bears the distinction of being completely woman-initiated and woman-controlled. A lubricated and soft hypoallergenic sheath with a flexible ring on each end, it fits in with our diverse sexual repertoire. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, when used correctly, a female condom’s effectiveness in preventing pregnancy is 95 percent, compared with 98 percent for male condoms. Female condoms also cover more of the external genitalia than male condoms, offering better protection against herpes and other STIs. Those of us who have grown weary of negotiating male condom use every time we have sex might therefore find a welcomed bedfellow in the female condom.

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The Sexy Feminist Polls: The Most Important Issue Facing Feminism, Your Feminist Role Models, and More

With more than 500 voters logging responses to our recent Sexy Feminist polls, we thought it would be fun to break down some of the results. According to Sexy Feminist readers …

The most important issue facing feminism today is sexual and domestic violence. This makes sense, of course: Freedom from violence and fear is the most basic human right, and many women lack that specifically because of their gender. We can’t progress on much else if we don’t combat this one. The Violence Against Women Act was a good start, but we have a long way to go. For statistics, resources, and help, visit the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence.

Your favorite feminist role models are Hillary Clinton and Tina Fey. This combination says it all for 2013 feminism: a badass politician who’s already a frontrunner for the next presidential election, and who has done tireless work for women all over the world; and a prominent, funny, beloved woman who’s broken open comedy’s boys’ club and is on yet another upward trajectory in her career toward movie stardom — as a mom in her 40s. Ellen DeGeneres and Gloria Steinem also inspired a lot of you, and we can’t blame you for that, either.

The sexiest feminist thing a man can do is actively champion women’s rights to others. Can’t argue with that. There’s nothing better than a man who realizes feminism matters as much to men as it does to women. You all wouldn’t mind if he picked up his share of the domestic load, too.

Almost half of you became feminists because you believe in equal rights for all.  


SEXY FEMINISM Out Today!

Our book, SEXY FEMINISM, is out today.

Order now on AmazonBarnes & NobleIndieBound, or iTunes.

Here’s a little bit about it:

In Sexy Feminism (Mariner/Houghton Mifflin Harcourt), SexyFeminist.com co-founders Jennifer Keishin Armstrong and Heather Wood Rudulph offer simple ways for busy, young women to improve every aspect of their own lives by following feminist principles. With dozens of ways to take action, Sexy Feminism explains how feminism helps women get what they want (and does not, contrary to many reports, ruin anyone’s chances at love, success, sex, beauty, or style). It guides young women toward finding their own brand of feminism and using it to improve their lives and the world.

“We live in a society where sex is used against women as much as it’s used by women. Sexy Feminism calls foul on that (and other) double standards—and makes manifest my frequent observation that feminists are almost always the sexiest people in the room.” —Jennifer Baumgardner, author of F’em!: Goo Goo, Gaga, and Some Thoughts on Balls

“Genius! Sexy Feminism is a delicious primer for budding feminists (and the feminist-curious), as well as a sigh of relief for long-term third-wave feminists who long to be understood and are tired of explaining our beliefs. Finally a book that explains us to ourselves and to others in a funny, sexy, smart way.

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Celebrating Feminist Progress On International Women’s Day

International Women’s Day (March 8th) makes us wax nostalgic about our favorite feminist icons (Gloria Steinem, Ruth Bader Ginsberg, Sarah Weddington, Hillary Clinton, Madonna). There are so many women to thank for where we are today, and even more to look to for where we are going. Our new book, Sexy Feminism, is a celebration of how far we’ve come and the liberties we are afforded today to be confident, individuals in our feminism. To embrace this sentiment, here are some polls to take, share with your friends, and discuss with anyone. Feminism can be fun, but it’s always something we should talk about.

What Is the Most Important Issue Facing Feminism Today?

Who’s Your Favorite Feminist Role Model?

What’s the Sexiest Feminist Thing a Man Can Do?

Why Did You Become A Feminist?

 


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